Sunday, 31 August 2014

Things I have Said To My Husband Today

  • Oooh thanks
  • Lovely
  • I do love my birthday
  • No no that's fine
  • Lots of little ones are great
  • I don't need a big present
  • Hmmm
  • I wonder what it is
  • Oh
  • Err
  • Lovely
  • Yes I know
  • I know I need a new mug
  • It's great
  • It's 
  • Just
  • Well
  • It's pink
  • And got a willy for a handle
  • I'm sure you did have a laugh
  • I'm glad you enjoyed shopping
  • For the first time
  • Yes yes
  • What a funny shop girl
  • I bet she does have great taste
  • And loves willy mugs
  • But
  • Well
  • What do I do when friends come over
  • And they see me with a willy mug
  • Oh
  • I see
  • All of them?
  • Six?
  • I do like matching sets yes
  • It will be a talking point
  • I do like lots of presents
  • I just didn't think they'd be willy themed
  • Should I expect willy mugs in every present?
  • Excellent
  • Excellent
  • So there's nothing else?
  • Oh
  • Ok
  • I'd love one last surprise
  • I'm glad you're excited
  • Yes I'm excited too
  • Hmmm
  • I wonder what it is
  • Oooh
  • A sleeping bag
  • Yes I did need a new one
  • It's just
  • Well
  • It's in the shape of a willy
  • Yes I do appreciate the theming
  • It will be lovely and warm
  • What do you mean that's not all?
  • What else could there possibly be?
  • Oh
  • I see
  • I'm glad you got one too
  • Yes it will be fun camping
  • We will look good
  • Ohh even better
  • Yes that's certainly the best bit
  • I'm really glad they zip together
  • Excellent
  • Yes I get the joke
  • Two peas in a pod wasn't exactly what came to mind
  • You're right
  • I am the luckiest wife ever
  • I can't wait to go camping

Friday, 22 August 2014

Things I Have said To My Husband Today

  • That’s lovely
  • Thank you
  • Yes I do
  • I do love being on holiday
  • With you
  • Of course I like being with you
  • Well
  • Because
  • Well
  • We’re married
  • And that’s what married people do
  • What do you mean bored?
  • Why would I get bored/
  • Who’s bored?
  • You
  • Ah
  • Right
  • Ok
  • Well
  • What would you like to do?
  • What football?
  • In Spain?
  • Oh
  • Well
  • Ok
  • Just this once
  • You’re not doing me a favour
  • I don’t need you out of my hair
  • You’re not very annoying
  • Yes even when you dance
  • Please don’t dance
  • I like your jokes
  • Inappropriate is good
  • No
  • No I haven’t wished you had someone to play with
  • Waiting for what mates?
  • We’re in Spain
  • You don’t know anyone in Spain
  • So you don’t have any mates
  • You’ve what?
  • Invited who?
  • Pokey, Stu and Bucket Head?
  • What do you mean I’m welcome?
  • Oh good Lord Jesus Christ
  • Yes
  • Yes I hear it
  • Go and open the door then

Things I Have Said to Pokey, Stu and Bucket Head Today

  • Oh
  • Hi guys
  • Yes
  • Lovely to see you too
  • No thanks
  • No thanks Bucket Head
  • I can do my own suncream
  • Really
  • Well I tend to yes
  • Well always
  • I always wear a bikini top
  • No
  • I never take it off
  • Not even now
  • I know we’re in Europe
  • I don’t mind looking like a tourist
  • I don’t mind standing out
  • Please stop nudging each other
  • And grinning
  • Standing out is not a funny phrase
  • Very mature Pokey
  • Pretending to have boobs is a classic I agree
  • You’re all very funny
  • Here you go
  • All of you
  • It’ll get you an ice cream
  • Yes you can spend it on beer
  • Now go and watch the football

Monday, 4 August 2014

Things I Have Said To My Father Today

  • Hi Dad
  • It's me
  • Fine thanks
  • Yes, yes fine
  • All fine yes thanks
  • No I don't want to speak to mum
  • Well, you
  • Ok
  • Well
  • Err
  • Right
  • Um 
  • Well a package arrived addressed to you
  • At my house
  • Oh right
  • Glad you're not surprised
  • Oh that's lovely of you
  • Well I suppose surprises are nice yes
  • Mum does love surprises
  • Especially on her birthday
  • Well anything would beat the trowel you bought her last year
  • Or the comb from the year before
  • Yes she does use it daily
  • On the cat
  • The Internet is magic yes
  • All sorts of things
  • Excellent
  • I'm glad you're having such fun with it
  • And enjoying ordering surprises
  • It's just
  • Just
  • Well could you come and get it sometime
  • Before her birthday
  • Well I'm very sorry for ruining the surprise
  • But it's been sitting on the mantlepiece
  • And vibrating
  • And Jack asked me all about it
  • And made a rrrr ing noise
  • Well I said that you'd ordered a razor
  • And then it vibrated off the mantlepiece and the packaging split
  • Yes I did like the colour
  • Very nice
  • Well a sort of purply pink I suppose
  • It does suit mum's colouring yes
  • Could you come and get it?
  • It's just not suitable here
  • I left it on the floor
  • Rrrrr ing
  • Would you want to touch it?
  • Oh good lord
  • I don't need details thanks
  • I know we're all grown ups
  • No thanks
  • I really don't want to try one
  • It's not an investment 
  • My future happiness is fine
  • I don't care if there's a sale
  • I don't feel I'm missing out
  • Honestly
  • How's what going?
  • What do you mean in that department?
  • We're fine
  • I won't thank you in the future
  • Please don't suppose anything
  • Or make suggestions
  • He won't look at me with new eyes
  • No more details please
  • Could you just come and get it
  • Please
  • Ok
  • Fine
  • I'll think about it
  • I know how to work the internet thanks
  • I'll look it up
  • Yes I promise
  • And we'll never, ever mention this again.
  • Friday, 1 August 2014

    Old Kid On The Block

    Crikey restarting this blog is like starting school all over again, except this time you're the old and wrinkled one sitting at the back wondering where your friends went and if any of this new bunch bought a corkscrew.
    Firstly, I don't know my way around this new fangled blogosphere, the corridors smell funny, there's no set seating for lunch and my spot with the comfy grass round the back of the bike shed has been taken. I feel a Pile coming on.

    Secondly, I've got to make new friends. Which is painful, I'm terrible at it, I tend to fall over my words and make inappropriate jokes about anything that comes to mind. I was once introduced to a Mum at the school,  and all I could think of to say was:
    "Haven't you got even teeth"
    To be fair she had got really really straight teeth, but this was in answer to the question "is this your puppy?" Which it was, so I should have just said yes and would you like a stroke? Of the puppy not me hahahah - see, I do it on the keyboard too. I mean, would you be friends with me? Doubtful, I steal (WHY, why do I do that?)

    Anyway it's been four years away from this blogging malarky, my new career in interpretive dance went quickly by the wayside, apparently interpretive dance still means you actually have to be able to dance. Which the Cruise Liner didn't specifically say on the advert. Also, turning up dressed as a pantomime cow to the Captain's Welcome Dinner was seen as an interpretation too far even though we were having beef. Honestly, no sense of humour the lot of them.

     I did try and lighten the dinner up by taking up the captain's hat and spreading my arms out wing-like and singing My Heart Will Go On but he just looked crosser and went red. In one last attempt to get him to bloody cheer up, I winked at him through my costume and suggested I'd like him to draw me, "wearing this (tugging at cow costume) and only this" Flutter flutter, simper. So that was the end of my interpretative dance career.

    Last year I went to register as a childminder but they suggested I take a breathalyser before the next interview and to consider carefully if this was the career for me. Obviously I insisted that it was, I'd be ace at it.  I've got two kids of my own and they're alive, and I've had one of them for ten years, speaks for itself really.
    "Hand me a couple of kids and I'll show you" I said winningly, "come back in ten years and they'll be alive, I SWEAR". 
    I don't think they could find any children that needed minding that week so I didn't get to do that job.

    Eventually I did some dog walking, no one really interviews you for that and dogs don't talk. You can tie them up anywhere - anywhere!- as long as the General Public can't see, and have a sit-down, a bit of a snooze, anything really and get paid for it. The dogs are really grateful too, especially if you wear your cow outfit. They think you're trying to be their friend.

    But I missed the blogging, Mistress of my own domain, charting my own course, laying wherever I set my dogs, and I think I'm dead employable online; it's anonymous, you can't tell whether I passed the breathalyser and I have endless, endless inappropriate relatives. Lucky, lucky me.
    And lucky you for getting to join in.

    Thursday, 31 July 2014

    Will You Have Me Back?

    I know, I know, bloody fickle. You close one blog down four years ago, only to beg, weep, sob gently into your Pinot in sweeping gestures of contrition in hope, nay, prayer, that you'd have me back.

    I'll be good I swear. I'll post regularly, I'll give credit where credit's due - all hail Husband's underpants and general lack of hygiene for most of my fodder - and I'll fill you in down below with all the smutty innuendo you can swallow. 

    If, if, you'll take me back I will endeavour to give you a four to one smut ratio. 

    So, rather hoping the answer will be a yes, I'll make good on my first promise - see, I can be trusted*

    Here we go:

    Still smells
    Has learned to lift the toilet seat while spraying. We threw a party.
    Is working on the spraying using a kind of plastic bottle contraption he, Pokey, Stu and Bucket head worked on together.
    Is trying to patent his Spray-Away
    Decided to become vegetarian for a year until he discovered bacon is meat.
    Has switched from beer to cider for health reasons.
    Measures his bald spot in area rather than circumference and enjoys remarking on how long until he can feasibly buy a merkin.
    Has agreed to change his underpants at least every other day 
    Says hello to you all and would like me to remind you that he's four years older and therefore wiser. Quite.

    It turns out Twizzle is allergic to his own fur. It seems we picked the only self allergic, incontinent dog on the planet. Lucky, lucky me.
    Also, his ears drag in the water when he drinks out of his bowl and we have to peg his ears up with a clothes peg. Picture it.
    Also while I think of it, he humped the baby sitter last night. Just thought I'd share that, it's not really an update, rather a tally.

    IS TEN. TEN!! And away at pony camp learning about Really Expensive Hobbies and things you can buy to accessorise Really Expensive Hobbies. You can get bling stirrups and everything.
    Is bringing out a line in pony hair dye and non pierced hooped earrings.
    Continues to out smart, out cool and out socialise her mother.

    Is seven. I was going to put that in block capitals with an exclamation mark and everything but meh. Your second's way less exciting when hitting new ages. Sooo last season, as Isla would say.
    Has decided that he wants to be seven when he grows up and mistakes the black and white pony Isla rides for a cow.

    My Mother
    Still has a key to my house.
    Has decided to outwit Shirley-the-Competition this week by forgetting to water her plants for her while she's away. "that'll teach her to reach above her station and go to Istanbul" Sniff. My Mother pronounces Istanbul as Standing Bull.
    Asked Husband if he could get dad a merkin when he finally bought his.
    Still wears boots from the Transexual shop.

    Has found a new place for the porn mags. My Mother once took an interest in his potting shed and moved the seed trays. There were Words.
    Has started trying to work the internet.
    Has replaced his paint stirring stick with much mourning. He wore a black band for a week, with a playboy bunny appliqu├ęd at the side.
    Is talking to Barry Next Door again when they both lost to Clive From Down The Road in the Most Knobbly Cauliflower competition. They're working on a carrot-shaped beetroot prototype with an eye to a Most Hilarious Vegetable rosette.

    Millennium Housewife
    Continues the quest for stable sanity. It's all down to you.

    *Cannot be trusted

    Tuesday, 9 November 2010

    So Long, Farewell, Auf Wiedersehen, Goodbye

    It is a truth universally acknowledged that a Mother in possession of two children in school must be in want of a life. One that isn't virtual that is.
    So dear readers it is with some regret that I close this blog and attempt to find some kind of existence beyond the four walls of my kitchen, one hopefully with more padding than this kitchen chair I've been sitting on for the last three years.
    It's been wonderful knowing you all, I've made some great virtual and some non virtual friends, followed your adventures and laughed and cried with a lot of you.
    Rest assured I will still be haunting your blogs, I'll just comment anonymously, just to keep you all guessing...
    You'll forgive an old gal some indulgence won't you if I repost my four favourite ever posts? Call it nostalgia, call it blatant hooting about the glory years, call it plagiarism from the past. Whatever, just indulge me, there's a love.
    So long,
    MH xxxxxx

    Things I have said To My Parents Today

    • Ooh thankyou
    • Happy early Christmas to you too
    • I like the wrapping
    • Shall I guess?
    • Ok
    • Err
    • Well it doesn't rattle
    • It's squareish
    • It's quite light
    • I'm guessing a book
    • Shall I open it?
    • Excellent
    • I wonder what it is
    • Yes I was right, a book
    • Sex As You Age?
    • Sex As You Age?
    • What do you mean I'm quite welcome?
    • It may well have got you through some tough times
    • But I'm in my thirties
    • My Thirties
    • I'm not aging
    • Or in need of an elderly person's sex manual
    • Oh crikey
    • There's notes in the margin
    • Especially for me?
    • Was this your book?
    • Dad please don't say Ours like that
    • While putting your arm round mum
    • Because I'm holding your sex manual
    • And sitting next to you
    • And trying desperately to think of something pleasant
    • And Christmassy
    • And not look at the chapter entitled Arthritis Of The Knee And You
    • Dad
    • Stop winking at mum
    • Put your hands where I can see them
    • Both of you
    • I'm taking away the sherry
    • No you can't have it back at bedtime
    • Because we're in the room next to you
    • And I can see you've put your knee bandage on
    • Yes of course safety comes first
    • But so does your daughter's mental health
    • I'm sure you do have a book on that too
    • But really
    • No more books OK
    • Because my nerves can't take it
    • No thanks
    • I don't want my other present
    • Because it looks suspiciosly like a pot of chocolate
    • And a box of knee bandages

    Things I Have Said To My Husband Today

    • Ooh, yes I'd love a night out tonight
    • What do you mean just you?
    • But I do like them
    • I love Pokey, Stu and Bucket Head
    • Oh
    • Right
    • Of course I want you to have a good night
    • I know Pokey, Stu and Bucket Head don't have girlfriends
    • Apart from each other
    • Nothing, sorry
    • I didn't say anything I just coughed
    • Will you be coming home after?
    • Are you sure you don't want to stay at Pokey, Stu and Bucket Head's
    • Yes of course I want you to come home
    • Well you only have to sleep in the spare room if you snore
    • I know you snore when you're drunk
    • So you're guaranteeing that you're going to snore?
    • Well then it'll have to be the spare room
    • Because I have to get up with the children
    • What do you mean where will Pokey, Stu and Bucket Head sleep?
    • Invited them here?
    • After a night in the pub?
    • Hmm
    • Well OK then
    • Could you just make sure you all throw up in the toilet?
    • I know there was a queue but the wok's just never been the same
    • OK I'll put buckets out
    • Send my love to Pokey, Stu and Bucket Head

    Husband Flu

    This post was going to be entitled 'man flu', not very original I know but could we really get through the Winter without reporting on this annual epidemic of such grave proportions that it results in so many near death encounters? Indeed it would be scandalous to ignore it, heartless even when we consider just how much our men folk have been through.

    Luckily none of them, despite predictions, assurances (promises even) and some evidence to the contrary, have passed away. We emerge once again unscathed by such suffering (them), and a little scathed by such ministering (us) and of course the worry.

    Husband's flu started about the time he first needed to blow his nose. It was a scary moment obviously, something was wrong with him, he might even feel poorly or, heaven's above need to go to the doctor's. In fact if a visit to The Scary Man was nigh the best thing to do, of course, was to take himself to bed and nurse himself until he was completely better to avoid such an encounter.

    The best thing about me, thought Husband, is that I make absolutely no fuss, in fact no one will even know I'm here. Unless I get really ill you understand. Yup, I understood. He sat in bed like a small boy in an Enid Blyton story, special striped pyjamas on (kept from his childhood and saved for the really serious cases), knees drawn up and duvet up to his chin. There was a weak smile as I entered the sick room with a cup of tea which he bravely sipped while quite hot. I had blown on it like he'd asked, but still, it was brave. I placed a box of tissues on the bedside table and a bucket as requested just in case. Then I duly went downstairs for the forgotten items (hot water bottle, Lemsip, cough drops and a newspaper in case his head felt up to reading). Yes, he was a little trouper, no one but me knew he was ill, and he was nursing himself through it in his own way. Of course he was too ill to get up and actually nurse himself, so I had to do it but the thought was there, he whispered weakly.

    It was a long afternoon for him, tea made his nose runnier so warm honey was duly administered, the hot water bottle was tricky to keep at just the right temperature despite him checking it on his thermometer, and the TV just wasn't up to scratch. He got through it somehow and struggled to bedtime managing a bowl of soup and chocolate pudding before checking the water bottle temperature and falling asleep next to me, exhausted.

    In bed that night he proceeded to groan as loudly as possible and thrash about wildly as he tried to deal with his flu. Every nose blowing event was performed accompanied by an expletive and a comment on how much he wasn't sleeping and how long to go until I had to get up. If I had managed to go to sleep between these events then I was sure to be awoken by loud retching noises away from the bucket as a demonstration of what might possibly happen were he to feel sick and I had missed the warning signs.

    By 2am I had had enough, he'd only used up one tissue all day and the 'sweat' patches were really spilled Lemsip. Risking a lifetime of references to my uncaring nature and pub near-death stories that I had no authority to refute so he could embellish at will, I moved to the spare room. I did explain to him why, but all he could reply was that he could see a bright light and should he go towards it?

    The dread of a cold bed and having to clean the guest sheets tomorrow were no deterrent to the thought of a decent few hours before getting up with the children. It was bliss, heaven, worth the lifetime's condemnation. For a while. He missed me you see, it may be his last night of sleeping next to me and wouldn't it be lovely to savour the moment? I felt the bed springs sink as he dragged himself into bed beside me. The groanings were louder this time although giving him the warm bit of the bed went some way to soothing them. The retching continued until the bucket was brought from our room and then almost ceased. We watched dawn rise together thankful that he'd survived the night.

    I sent him to the doctors the next day, tail between his legs, deaf to his protestations that all he needed was a few more days of TLC. He emerged from the surgery triumphant and euphoric. The doctor had sympathised, hadn't asked him to remove any clothing and best of all given him a prescription for Strepsils.

    One Day

    One day I will have a small car again. One that only fits me and the occasional passenger and is clean, shiny and hand print free at all times.

    One day I will go with my husband on a second honeymoon (for two), wake with the sun high in the sky, get ridiculously and dizzyingly drunk at lunch time and go straight to bed until the next morning.

    One day my house will stay the way I left it, not mysteriously mess up the minute I turn my back.

    One day I will pop out to the shops - and I mean pop - and be finished in five minutes. I may even treat myself to a basket rather than a trolley-for-three and queue up giddily in the baskets only aisle.

    One day I will go to all the shops in my village and buy elegant things for dinner, stopping to chat or for a coffee at leisure. I will be able to fit myself (because there is only myself and no pram) into every tiny specialist shop, smug and happy that I'm 'buying locally'.

    One day I will have a cup of tea during nap time without the tension that someone may wake at any minute and ruin the moment. In fact I may even have a set cup-of-tea-time that I adhere to religiously just because I can.

    One day my children will refer to me as That Mad Old Bat or The Parental Guidance rather than Mummy Can I Have and I will be pleased at my eccentricities and lack of responsibility.

    One day I will actually go on a 'date night' (ha ha ha, did anyone really believe they would ever get to do that?) with my husband without the little knot of tension that everything's alright at home.

    One day my kitchen will be my own, the high chair, mini chair-and-table set and play mat will be gone and I will dance a waltz with my husband around our own elegant dining table in all the space.

    One day my day will end when I want it to, possibly as late as 11pm, rather than at 3pm when I start thinking about school pick up and tea.

    One day evenings will be for relaxing, possibly a glass of wine or even the cinema, not getting-ready-for-the-morning, ironing, sandwiches and signing notes.

    One day I will sleep all night long without nightmares/coughs/toilets/monsters to wake me.


    One day the house will be ever so quiet, I will be able to whisper to myself and hear the echo.

    One day strangers won't smile at me on the street, pause and say; isn't she/he lovely, envious of my status, my life, my treasures.

    One day I won't get up to two smiling faces, ever so pleased that I'm awake and ready to play.

    One day the worry will be further away and thus more scary and less controllable.

    One day my tea break will be interrupted by the phone ringing, and it will be one of the children and I shall be very very glad.

    One day my heart won't burst with pride every morning just for the existence of another human being.

    One day the feeling of a tiny hand slipping into mine, skipping and pulling at it while I go, will be a distant, precious memory hard to grasp and pin down.

    One day tiny clothes and underwear that are so cute your heart skips will be missing from my washing line, my ironing pile.

    One day I will wish for little cold feet and snuffly noses to creep into bed with me. I may even wake in the night thinking they have only to find it was a dream.

    One day I won't be a hero, a queen, the focus and meaning in my children's lives. Just an ordinary person living invisibly.

    One day life will be for filling, but not necessarily fulfilling, not in the same way anyway.

    Until grandchildren.